Happy Birthday to Me: Realizing I am a Grown Man

08 Oct


By: Tony L. Jefferson, Jr.


On the 8th day, In October of 1985 I drew my first breath in this world. This world was so new to me, full of wonder and amazement. A birthday is something special, kind of like your own holiday, but more than that it is a beginning of a new age. Some people see this as insignificant, but I truly cherish this day.


So I turn 23 today, for some just another number, but for me another year that I was able to make it to. Many events have transpired up to this point and turning this age reminds me of how far I have come and prepares me for the road ahead. I am truly learning what being a grown man really means.


Being a Grown man means you are able to handle what life throws at you. You are able to weather most any storm. You are prepared to provide for you and yours; you have learned to respect women and elders. You have truly lived and are on top of your game, but you are humble enough to stay grounded to your values and beliefs. You command respect and you give it equally.


No longer are you the immature young one running around without a care in the world. You have responsibilities and goals to achieve. No longer are you the “Player” you are now the “Seeker” you are looking for a quality mate to settle down with. High school games stay in high school, there is no place in the Adult world for such antics.


A Libra, the Zodiac sign for my birthday in October, is supposed to be balanced and romantic. We also are supposed to try to find balance in our surrounding environment, when things are out of whack, no one feels it more than we do.


Happy Birthday to me, this special day I am happy to see. I’ve arrived yet again to another age and I am excited to see what it will reveal for me.


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12 responses to “Happy Birthday to Me: Realizing I am a Grown Man

  1. Kikolani | Poetry, Photography, Blogging Tips

    October 8, 2008 at 5:59 am

    A very Happy Birthday to a creative mind. 🙂

    ~ Kristi

  2. Nortoria

    October 8, 2008 at 6:15 am

    I love it, it was very nice and very true. I am wishing your the best on your special day. You are a good friend and I’m glad to be able to give you that title in my life.

    Peace and Love


  3. Cashmere

    October 8, 2008 at 10:52 am

    Happy 23rd birthday to you ~!

  4. Danille

    October 8, 2008 at 2:56 pm


  5. Anonymous Admin

    October 8, 2008 at 5:22 pm

    They say that age is all in your mind. The trick is keeping it from creeping down into your body. so Happy Birthday Day !

  6. polybore

    October 8, 2008 at 11:18 pm

    Happy Birthday to us! We share the same Birthday ie the 8th of October, a very auspicious date don’t you think?

    Many Happy Returns.

  7. Hicham

    October 8, 2008 at 11:28 pm

    Birthday are not just another number to be added or subtracted from your life, rahter they are turning points for taking an overlook on what did you acheive and what you want to so it’s important.

    Happy Birthday 🙂

  8. tonymas

    October 8, 2008 at 11:52 pm

    Great post. More young men your age should know what it’s like to be a Grown Man. You got it.

  9. A Good Black Woman

    October 10, 2008 at 10:21 am

    Happy Birthday Darling, what a lovely post, I hope you had an amazing day and that you have many more to come x

  10. mahoganydymond

    October 16, 2008 at 4:22 pm

    Happy Belated… I had mine yesterday.. I turned 33… I know I have to grow up now..

  11. patjb

    October 22, 2008 at 9:35 pm

    Your age is young, but your soul is full of depth. Thanks for sharing

  12. Aunt Bobbie

    November 17, 2008 at 9:55 pm

    Happy late birthday I love you I miss you
    Stay safe Mr. 23


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